Wedding Rings And Engagement Rings Together

Bridal Ring Sets – Why Are They Better Than Separate Engagement and Wedding Rings?

About the author: Melinda Gagnon lives in Atlanta is a fine jewellery and gems enthusiast, which has written extensively providing Antique Engagement Rings buying tips and suggestions. Check out some of her other tips and suggestions for Celtic Wedding Band and more at Wedding Bands For Women.

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Frequently Asked Questions

1. QUESTION:
   Is it wise to sauter your wedding and engagement rings together?
   I was married last August and my wedding ring spins on my finger in the winter time when I’m cold. Both rings are the perfect size and cannot fall off, but the wedding ring does spin around when I’m using my hands for something. Anyhow, is it wise to get them sautered together so that the wedding ring cannot spin around? Is it expensive? Were you happy with yours being sautered?

   • ANSWER:
     Some places that were purchased from will do it for free.

     My wife didn’t want to get her rings soldered just in case she just wanted to wear her wedding ring in chance of losing or getting the engagement ring lost/stolen. There are places she’s not comfortable to wear her engagement ring.

2. QUESTION:
   How do wedding ring/engagement rings work? when to give what?
   Im planning on proposing to my girlfriend as soon as i look for and buy a ring but im kinda confused. Theres bridal sets which go together, and theres engagement rings then weedding rings to givin at the wedding obviously. In the second instance, should the engagement ring be the larger of the two or should the wedding ring itsself be larger? thanks

   • ANSWER:
     Think of it this way. There is the diamond engagement ring which you buy and give to her when you want to propose. Then there is there are the wedding bands which you buy closer to the wedding date and exchange at your actual wedding ceremony. You see some bridal “sets” which consist of the diamond engagement ring and also the wedding band. The reason these are sold this way is because they are made to go together as a set, meaning they match. You can buy a set if you like but only give her the diamond engagement ring when you propose. Hold the band for the wedding day.

     I also suggest you to go a local jeweler in your area rather than one of the chain stores in the mall. A jeweler is much more knowledgeable.

     Good luck!

3. QUESTION:
   Advice on soldering wedding rings/engagement rings together?
   Ok, I have a few questions regarding my rings. My fiance bought me two enhancers to go with my engagement ring after the wedding, one for each side of the ring. One is technically the “wedding band” and the other is just a wedding “gift” but because they are curved bands, it looks better to have both. When I tried them on, they seem to move around a bit and don’t match up all the time with where the curved part should sit. Is it unusual to have the three soldered together and what are the pros and cons? I would never wear the band by itself because it’s a curved band and would look strange. The rings came from Kay’s…has anyone had any experience from there with soldering rings together–did they do a good job, and how long did it take? I hate the idea of being without my ring for two weeks leading up to the wedding. I had considered taking it to another jeweler to get it done same-day; would this ruin my warranty at Kay’s? Any advice or comments on this topic would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.

   • ANSWER:
     Kay is probably going to do a good job, and probably going to void your warranty if anyone else works on the rings. I can’t promise that though.

     I had mine soldered together because of the curvy thing that was moving around and making me crazy. I hated being without it, but am glad I did because it’s all one piece and I love it.

4. QUESTION:
   How do wedding and engagement rings work?
   This topic confuses me…
   Is the engagment ring traditionally more expensive, or cheaper than the wedding ring?

   Why are there 2 rings (engagement and wedding) wouldnt that be extremely expensive?

   Does the guy get an engagement ring too, or is the just the girl?

   Does the girl have to buy the guys wedding ring?

   Does the couple shop for the wedding rings together?

   Also, isn’t there an engagement/wedding ring that is like 2 pieces, and when the wedding comes you get the 2nd piece?

   • ANSWER:
     Q – Is the engagment ring traditionally more expensive, or cheaper than the wedding ring?
     A – The engagement ring is more expensive. Traditionally the man is supposed to spend 3 months salary on one, but that isn’t really done as much these days.

     Q – Why are there 2 rings (engagement and wedding) wouldnt that be extremely expensive?
     A – Most engagement rings & wedding bands can be bought in a set to save money & then the rings will also match. There doesn’t always have to be an engagement ring, but it’s just grown to be a custom. When people mention being engaged everyone always wants to see the engagement ring. The wedding band speaks for itself.

     Q – Does the guy get an engagement ring too, or is the just the girl?
     A – Guys can have an engagement ring too. It’s not tradition but it is becoming more popular lately. When I got engaged I bought my fiance a nice ring. Was nothing fancy cause it would just get damaged at work.

     Q – Does the girl have to buy the guys wedding ring?
     Usually the bride does buy the grooms ring. I think traditionally the grooms parents buy the wedding bands but not all traditional customs are followed thru on anymore.

     Q – Does the couple shop for the wedding rings together?
     Most of the time, yes. A lot of couples like to have matching rings therefore they’d shop together. But it can always be kept a surprise too.

     Q – Also, isn’t there an engagement/wedding ring that is like 2 pieces, and when the wedding comes you get the 2nd piece?
     Yes, thats a bridal set. Engagement rings come in all shapes & sizes these days so the wedding band is made to fit perfectly with it. My engagement ring is princess cut & the matching wedding band has a square groove in it to fit perfectly. My sisters wedding band is curved to fit in with her wavy styled engagement ring.

     =)

5. QUESTION:
   Any suggestions on wedding band/ engagement rings soldered together for engagement?
   My boyfriend and I picked out a bridal set prior to getting engaged. We decided that the rings looked better together, so we had them soldered together prior to getting engaged. I know this is not tradition, but are there any rules/ suggestions about how to wear the ring. Wedding band one side vs. the other? Any comments? Thanks in advance.

   • ANSWER:
     Since you are “breaking tradition” you could wear the wedding ring towards your fingernail, then switch it to the inner side on the day of your wedding, or just wear it the traditional way all the time. I use my engagement ring as my wedding ring too – it’s substantial enough to stand on it’s own and I didn’t feel the need for an additional ring – so I guess I “broke tradition” too – and no body cares and it’s made no difference in my marriage.

6. QUESTION:
   Do wedding rings and engagement ring have to fit exactly together?
   I found a style of wedding ring I like and a style of engagement ring I like but I know they will not fit snug against each other. Which led me to thinking…do they HAVE to fit snug or fit exactly into each other or next to each other?
   I put two links below to an example of this(not the rings I like but some that will have a similar problem).

   http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003UOK8O6/ref=noref?ie=UTF8&m=A1OGYU734TGJCF&s=jewelry&psc=1

   http://www.amazon.com/Black-Diamond-Stackable-Carat-Rhodium/dp/B004K73XKS/ref=sr_1_2?m=A1OGYU734TGJCF&s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1297954575&sr=1-2

   Thanks for answering.

   Yeah I get Because I said so is coming from.

   My only thing is most solitaires only have four prongs. I have had rings in the past and I have had one ring completely lose solitaire stone and one which wasn’t a solitaire lose one of the primary stones because one of the four prongs broke and the stone slid out. This has made me very wary about anything that has prongs less than a certain number or even those that use prongs at all.

   I use my hands ALOT with computer work and craft.
   I don’t want to take off the rings unless absolutely necessary cause they will get lost- I know me.
   And my view is what’s the sense in getting certain styles of rings if I can’t wear them when I’m using my hands which is for the majority of the day.

   What all of you have said makes sense and those who have shared their experiences with the same situation thank you. I personally don’t mind them not fitting exactly together- rolling around my finger isn’t too much of a problem I have access those ring snuggy t

   • ANSWER:
     It doesn’t matter if they fit together or not, mine don’t(my engagement ring has a similar shape to the one you like) and it took awhile to get used to, but I don’t even notice anymore.

7. QUESTION:
   Do you wear both your engagement and wedding rings once you’re married?
   I’ve been married since April this year and have since worn my engagement ring and my wedding band together since they look good together although they’re not a matching set. I’ve seen women wearing both and women wearing just the wedding band but which do you wear, personally and which is the traditional way?

   I wear mine with the wedding band on the bottom and the engagement ring on top.

   • ANSWER:
     Tradition is that a woman wears her wedding band closest to her heart, and the engagement ring closest to the knuckle.
     This is because the marriage should mean more than the engagement and there is a main blood vessel from the left ring finger to the heart.
     That is how I wear mine.

     The tradition of wearing white does not symbolize virginity…..it actually symbolizes the purity of the love between the bride and her husband, as Christ loves the church…..A veil is what symbolizes virginity.

     Romantic isn’t it?

8. QUESTION:
   Do I have to solder my engagement and wedding rings together, or is there an alternative?
   I have a wedding set that won’t sit well together. I like to wear them separately too so I don’t think something permanent will do. I’ve tried tape, rubber bands, and all sorts of weird things. Isn’t there a gadget for this? Serious replies only please. Thanks
   I you don’t know, don’t answer.

   • ANSWER:
     hi
     i have never heard of such a thing. i think the only option is to solder the diamond engagement ring and the wedding band together to make it the diamond bridal set. i had bought my diamond bridal set from http://www.jewelocean.com , and i asked them to solder it together. they were great to do it without any cost.

9. QUESTION:
   What should I do with my engagement and wedding rings after divorce?
   I was married August of 2005 and December 2006 I am awaiting the final divorce decree in the mail. A bad situation got worse and we do not speak to each other anymore. (Three weeks after we got married he told me that we never should have done that and it went down hill from there.) We do not have any kids together. He has nothing to do with me. I’m not really fond of the rings he picked out for me. The engagement ring is a bit scratched up from wear and tear and the wedding ring has our date engraved in it. I’ve thought about pawning them, throwing them in our new years eve bon fire, keeping them tucked away forever. I just don’t know what feels right. Maybe I could just sell the diamonds to a jewelry store and burn the settings. I’m trying to clean my life up and start to close the wounds and move on to better things. Any ideas would be great.

   • ANSWER:
     Pawn the diamonds and burn the rest.
     Good luck on the starting over.

10. QUESTION:
    engagement and wedding rings?
    Im a little confused, ok so im talking “traditionally” here, i know the “husband to be” buys the engagement ring without the “wife to be” knowing. But then when the “wife to be” receives the engagement ring does she buy her man one to? Or do men not get engagement rings? And then the wedding rings, do you go together to buy them, are they matching? Or do you go separately and buy them as a surprise for each other. And is the woman’s engagement ring supposed to match her wedding ring, and traditionally what do they both look like and are they gold or white gold?

    • ANSWER:
      The man doesn’t have an engagement ring. Just the suprise one for you.
      As for wedding rings, usually you would pick them together, and you would get one to go with your engagement ring. whether or not his matches yours is personal choice. Same with which gold to use. whichever you prefer. more people seem to be going with white gold these days, but I prefer yellow gold. Engagement ring has diamonds, the wedding ring sometimes is a plain band or has a few smaller diamonds to go with the engagement ring.

11. QUESTION:
    how do wedding/engagement rings work?
    so you get the engagement ring when he proposes, and then together you go and get a wedding band for each of you?
    and the wedding band is put on during the wedding?
    Which ring is the one the woman wears the rest of her life? i typically see woman wearing only one ring. I’m assuming its the engagement ring because that one has the rock…so what happens to the wedding band? is it just a waste of money used for the wedding? and does the man wear the wedding band the rest of his life?

    thanks!

    • ANSWER:

12. QUESTION:
    What are the different wedding rings and how to wear them?
    I know that there are wedding bands, engagement rings, and wedding rings. When should a man give you either of these and how should they go on the finger? Together and separately. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Engagement rings are usually given when he proposes. Some people go looking together before the actual proposal while others go pick one out after the man proposes. Some men buy an engagement ring with no input from the prospective bride. I don’t recommend this tactic. The ring should match the prospective bride’s style and be something she likes. She’s going to be wearing it for a long long time!

      I personally went on websites like bluenile.com and built a ring I liked to give my husband some ideas. He then had an engagement ring made for me that matched what I liked at a local jeweler.

      Wedding rings and wedding bands are given at the wedding. The bride and groom usually pick them out together in advance of the wedding so there will be enough time for the rings to be just right before the ceremony.

      My husband and I had our wedding rings made by the same jeweler who made my engagement ring. They match perfectly so they’re a set.

      If there is any difference in wedding bands and wedding rings, it’s that bands don’t have stones in them while rings do. I think there actually isn’t any difference. The terms are interchangeable.

      Both rings are worn on the left ring finger, which is the one next to the pinky. During the engagement, only the engagement ring is worn. Usually, the bride removes the engagement ring for the ceremony, either to her right hand or has the maid of honor wear it. The groom puts the wedding band on the bride and then she moves the engagement ring on top of it.

      Many people just wear the wedding band when they’re doing something messy or that might damage the engagement ring.

13. QUESTION:
    how should one wear the engagement and wedding rings together?
    Should it be wedding band then engagement or the other way around?

    • ANSWER:
      I believe it should be the wedding band closest to the heart as the symbol of love.

14. QUESTION:
    wedding and engagement rings?
    Lately I have been looking into wedding and engagement rings. I’m blown over by the millions of choices! My question is simple. how do you choose an engagement ring that looks good with your wedding ring since they are supposed to stay on the same finger if you like nice rings?? I’ve never really met anyone who has more than one ring with diamonds on it but my bf and I LOVE diamonds! I want my rings to look good together but don’t want a two ring setting as an engagement ring because I think they look odd and don’t seem to come with more than one diamond. I really like the larger “pave” style and also the simple one stone setting with diamonds on either side as well as the one I don’t really know the name of it but you can see it here at Tiffany’s. Please help! Are there other people who just don’t wear their rings on the same finger? I just think that whatever I choose (I will def. keep both rings the same style) will look silly! please help me!

    http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP00043&mcat=148210&cid=287466&search_params=s+2-p+23-c+287466-r+101323351-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+

    this is the Tiffany’s site with the ring I was talking about

    • ANSWER:
      You can easily wear a pave style with a band, it just depends on how high set the basket is… meaning how high on the band the stone rides. A lot of the time you can get enough space to be able to slide your wedding band right under the center stone.

      You can always wear your engagement ring on your right hand once you get married. Lots of women don’t even wear their engagement ring after their wedding except for special occasions (as rings can be bulky).

      May I suggest Ritani? This is where my engagement ring is from and where we got our wedding bands. They set their diamonds high enough so you can easily wear any style band you want, and not have that odd shape to the band. Plus, they have incredible craftsmanship. http://www.ritani.com/home

15. QUESTION:
    What do I do with my Wedding/Engagement rings while I am loosing weight?
    Ok so my New years resolution is to loose weight. I am planning on loosing about 120-130 lbs all together. I have been doing pretty well, but I still have a long way to go and I noticed my Engagement & wedding rings are getting loose already. I am worried that if I keep resizing them they will get damaged. I was thinking of maybe just putting them on a chain and wearing them as a necklace until I am down to my goal weight then I will re-size them just the one time. What do you think makes the most sense? If you have another idea that you think is better I’d love to hear it.
    Thank you all for your answers and positive encouragement. I really appreciate the ideas. I was really expecting much more negativity about my weight. PS I am weighing myself this weekend so I don’t know exactly where I am yet, but I started at 250 lbs… Yikes! I want to weight somewhere between 120 and 130 so I am essentially cutting my weight in half. I will be proud and happy with no matter where I am at the end of the year though, as long as I keep working towards my goal.

    • ANSWER:
      You can do it high school style, and wrap yarn around the band until there’s more yarn than ring. You can also purchase plastic ring spacers/sizers that snap onto the inside diameter of your ring. I like your idea of wearing a necklace best.

16. QUESTION:
    Engagement ring and wedding band that fit together?
    I’ve seen engagement/wedding ring sets that fit together to make one ring, but I can’t find it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? If so, could you provide a link? Thanks so much!

    • ANSWER:
      At Kay Jewelers or J. B. Robinson Jewelers, such bridal sets are called “wrap” or “enhancer” rings. If you go to any Kay or JBR, just ask and they’ll show you what you’re looking for.

      If you aren’t a fan of Kay Jewelers, I’m sure most other jewelry stores offer the same merchandise as well, as it’s becoming a popular style.

17. QUESTION:
    Is engagement ring same as wedding ring? Or people have two rings?
    Does the guy get a ring for an engagement? Or is it only the girl? And what happens at wedding? Do they exchange same ring again? Or have two rings instead?

    My boyfriend proposed to me in the most unexpected situation..and he did not have a ring with him at that time. Now, we are having an engagement party next month where would exchange the rings. We are going to pick the rings together. Currently we live in different towns and we have decided to have a wedding next year or so..when I end my contract with my company and move to his place. isn’t it customary to exchange rings for wedding as well? So, we get two rings?

    I have seen girls wearing an engagement ring with a diamond and a wedding band which is more simpler. But, I have never seen guys wearing two rings!!

    Pour in your thoughts please!

    • ANSWER:
      When a man proposes, and the girl accepts, they are engaged. He can either give her a ring that same day or they can go shopping together and select a ring. This engagement ring is for her to wear to show other guys that she is “taken”. An engagement party is NOT thrown by the couple. That is very rude as it looks like you want people to bring gifts. An engagement party is thrown by one of the PARENTS and it is an event to introduce the future son-in-law or daughter-in-law to close friends and relatives. The invitations should state “No gifts please” and it should be worded something like : John and Mary Smith are delighted to announce the engagement of our daughter Susan to Mark Jones. You are invited to an open house on …. to meet our future son-in-law. No gifts please!” You should already have received your engagement ring as people will want to see your ring and congratulate you. Some girls nowadays buy their guy a ring but it is not customary. This would be a “dressy” ring to wear on his right hand after he receives his wedding ring at the marriage but, really, this is more usual for gay men to do. As for the wedding bands — if you are going together to select your engagement ring, this is the best opportunity to select both your wedding bands as you will be able to try yours on alongside the engagement ring to ensure that they look nice together. Truly, throwing your own engagement party and exchanging rings at that event sounds weird.And, btw, suzibell is incorrect about the rings – the wedding band is worn on the inside, closest to your heart – and the engagement ring on the outside. It is the marriage that is important, not the size of the rock.

18. QUESTION:
    What is the proper way to wear wedding and engagement ring together?
    My cousin is getting married in June, and she plans to wear her wedding ring to the outside of her engagement ring. My cousin argues that the engagement ring is placed on first, so it is supposed to be worn to the inside. When I got married, i didn’t wear my engagement ring at the ceremony, because I thought the wedding band was supposed to be placed and worn at the base of the finger. Therefore I wear my wedding ring to the inside.

    Does anyone know the proper way it’s supposed to be worn?

    • ANSWER:
      You are supposed to wear your engagement ring on your other hand during the ceremony. The wedding ring goes on during the ceremony, and you put your engagement ring back on after. Your wedding ring should always be first, as it is closest to your heart, and your engagement ring is a “shield” to your wedding ring. You are right, your cousin is wrong.

19. QUESTION:
    Engagement/wedding rings? Too big?
    Okay, this may sound dumb, but I am not sure how all this works as I have never been engaged before and my mom isn’t around to tell me how it really works! My boyfriend recently bought my engagement ring after 3 years. The center diamond is 1ct marquise and directly on the sides it has baguettes and then on the out side that would look like a wedding band but is all put together on both sides are round brilliant cut diamonds which total the engagement ring at 2.50cts. Now my question is this…. do you still get another wedding band? I am sort of confused about how to do this if we will be looking for wedding bands as well, or if what I have is it or is it just personal preference? I mean, how do you put another one or two sides to this already pretty large ring? I am not vain and don’t need anything too big, but since we are doing a really small wedding, we invested more in the jewelry since I will wear it the rest of my life and not something that just lasts one day! No smartass answers would be appreciated it but I just want to know if what I have should be it, or are you suppose to get another one?! Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      I got engaged 4 months ago, and your ring sounds a lot like mine.
      The center diamond is 1ct marquise and directly on the sides it has baguettes. And then on both sides of that there are like 2 bands with diamonds on both bands. So its like all 3 put together. Its soo weird , your discription sounds just like mine. I would love to see a picture of it to see if it is the same.
      But to answer your question, we were told its just our opinion if you want another band get another band. Or the engagment ring could actually work for both the engagment ring and the band. So its realy just your opinion, whatever you like.
      I chose to get another band, its almost identical to the bands on the sides, but I wanted a band to have on the actual wedding day. The lady at the jewlery store said it can be done either way with or without a different band. She said if you chose to get a band, to put on with the engagment ring, then later on down the road, like for an anniversary you could get another band to put on the other side to even it up! Congrats on the engagment!

20. QUESTION:
    How to keep engagement ring/wedding band together without soldering?
    My fiance and I are getting married in Mexico. She doesn’t want the rings soldered before the wedding, as she wants to wear her engagement ring until the day of and then add the wedding band during the ceremony. Is there a way (some kind of clasp or something) to keep the rings together while we are on our honeymoon, before we get them soldered together?

    • ANSWER:
      I would think twice about soldering the rings together. That will create a permanent change to the ring which you will not be able to undo. Your jeweler may have something to hold the two rings together. Or just take one of the rings on the honeymoon together. Make sure that both rings are insured in case either one of them is misplaced, lost, damaged or stolen.

      Good luck!

21. QUESTION:
    Is there a proper way to wear the engagement ring and wedding ring together?
    Doesn’t the engagement ring go on first, followed by the wedding band? Or is there no set standard?

    • ANSWER:
      you wear the wedding band first (closest to your heart) and the engagement ring second. Traditionally they go on the left hand ring finger because that is the hand closest to the heart.

22. QUESTION:
    How long does soldering last for wedding rings?
    I had my wedding band and engagement ring soldered together before my May 16 wedding and I think they are already coming apart! I had them soldered at a good jeweler and I take good care of my rings so I am just wondering if this is normal? How long does soldering usually last?

    • ANSWER:
      I would have it looked at. Soldering rings together should not come apart. I have had mine soldered together for 7 years with no problems.

23. QUESTION:
    Wedding rings?
    This is probably a dumb question, but I’m confused about wedding rings. I’ve always thought that the man picks out the engagement ring and gives it to the girl…but then where does the wedding ring come in? I’ve heard of couples picking them out together. Can anyone clear this up for me?

    • ANSWER:
      Not a dumb question at all. what we learned is that there are rules, but each person has to make decisions that they are comfortable with regard this all important day.

      I didn’t want to spend thousands of dollars on an engagement ring that my wife wasn’t 110% thrilled about. I have a friend who is a gemologist, so she got to pick her stone out as well as the setting (separately) then she didn’t see it until I proposed.

      We later picked out our bands together.

      Here is a guide to wedding rings that may help as well:

      http://www.weddinggrants.com/engagement-ring

24. QUESTION:
    I would like to sell my wedding/engagement rings….?
    They are beautiful, but not a set, we bought them separately. I wondered if I would get more if I sold them separately or together, and where the best place to sell them might be. Unfortunately the marriage has ended and the financial picture is grim.
    Thanks!!

    • ANSWER:

25. QUESTION:
    I have to sell my wedding rings?

    I would like to sell my wedding/engagement rings….?
    They are beautiful, but not a set, we bought them separately. I wondered if I would get more if I sold them separately or together, and where the best place to sell them might be. Unfortunately the marriage has ended and the financial picture is grim.
    Thanks!!

    Poor angry Chase…My husband broke my leg on one of his “bad” days and I have ,000 in bills, but thanks for your kind reply.

    • ANSWER:
      You can try selling or consigning them to a local jewelry shop, but they probably won’t give you much.

      I would likely try on eBay…I sold some jewelry on there last year and made a decent amount of money.

      Hope things work out for you soon!

26. QUESTION:
    I’m looking for a metal clasp that holds wedding band rings together?
    I know they have to make little metal clasps that hold your wedding band and engagement rings together so they don’t slide around. I have googled every thing I can think of and can’t find them! Does anyone know where to get these or what they’re called?
    I really don’t want to get them soldered together.. and I don’t think it will work with the shape of my engagement ring. Thanks, though.

    • ANSWER:
      Surprisingly I was only able to locate one website which sells them.

      Think twice before getting your soldered together. I had mine done after 20 years on a clip. I just lost a ‘small’ diamond on my ring and now the whole thing has to go back to the jeweler.

27. QUESTION:
    Showing Him Engagement Rings?
    So, I’ve been with my boyfriend for many years and we are finally starting to get settled down and ready for marriage (I was in school for many years when we first started dating).

    I’m hoping that an engagement will come very soon (within the next year)

    Anyway, I’ve never been a girl to talk openly around my boyfriend about weddings, engagement rings, etc, etc. Around my friends, I’m a total girlie, girl about that stuff and I just love it.

    But, not with my boyfriend. I never wanted to put the pressure on or make it seem like I wanted a ring or a wedding, more than a marriage.

    We’ve talked about marriage alot and we’ve made it clear about wanting to get married and be together. We are currently taking all the steps needed to insure a happy, healthy and stable relationship. We are working hard at our jobs, saving money and paying off debts; all so “we can be together” and such.

    But, we’ve yet to talk about wedding dates, wedding rings, engagement rings or weddings.
    Well, lately I’ve been looking around at engagement rings (for the fun of it)

    My boyfriend and I are both traditional, so he’ll be buying the ring (most likely as a surprise) and surprising me with a proposal one day.

    Well, I was wondering if I could casually start showing him engagement rings. I would never make him commit to buying me one particular ring or style; but, I figure a few ideas never hurt.

    But, I’m so weird about it. I’ve never talked about wedding in this capacity around him and I don’t want to make it seem like I’m turning into a bridezilla before we even get engaged.

    So, how do you turn your conversations about marriage to actual wedding talk (like about dates, rings, etc, etc) w/o making it seem like that all you want (and not the marriage)

    Plus, can I show my boyfriend rings or is that asking too much?
    The question is, “How do you talk about actually wedding details (like rings, etc) prior to getting engaged, without sounding like you want a wedding more than a marriage?”

    I’ve never talked about wedding around him before and I’ve never been one of those girlfriend’s that says, “One our wedding day, I want us to have this……, or dance to this song….” Stuff like that.

    You know those kinds of girls. So, now that I actually want to bring it up, I’m worried I’ll sound like a bridezilla, wedding obsessed women instead of someone who wants to get married because they love their boyfriend.

    • ANSWER:
      I think you should bring it up the next time you guys are talking about marriage. (I get it that you haven’t talked about the wedding.)

      That’s what I did. We were talking about marriage, and I just said, “Um, honey, I don’t quite know how to bring this up. I mean, I don’t want to come across as materialistic or anything…”

      “Yeah…,” he said.

      “Well, when the time comes that you want to make these plans official, I want you to know what I like so that we’re both happy with the ring. Is that terrible of me?”

      “No! I want you to be happy with it; I want to know what you like.”

      It is awkward, but I think it’s better than getting something you’re supposed to love but can’t really like because it doesn’t fit your personality. I knew that I did NOT want a diamond as a center stone and I did NOT want him to overspend, and we’re both happier with the ring than we would have been otherwise.

28. QUESTION:
    How can I hold my platinum rings together?
    I have a platinum princess cut engagement ring, and a platinum wishbone shaped wedding ring, they look beautiful together, but the wishbone keeps slipping round my finger so the don’t sit together.

    I know gold rings can be soldered together, but is there any kind of clip I could buy to hold them together? Has anyone solved this problem before?!

    Any advice would be gratefully received. )

    • ANSWER:
      platinum rings can be soldered together as well it does not have to be gold. I had platinum rings too and had them soldered at the jeweler.

29. QUESTION:
    Am I allowed to pick out my engagement ring? Or is the wedding ring? Are they going to saudered together??
    I’ve been with my guy for 5 years. We’re going to get married sometime in 2010. I dont really know ANYTHING about wedding rings. So I have a few questions:

    1. Are there always/usually TWO rings? IE: The engagement and then the actuall WEDDING ring??? Are they Saudered together before/after the wedding?

    2. Is the female allowed to assist when it comes to choosing which ring she likes best? (Engagement Ring / Wedding Ring)

    3. If there are two rings, most commonly involved, does she get the flashier ring at the proposal, or on the wedding day??

    I have no clue ladies!! Help me out. I would LOVE to help choose a ring, and he would certainly not mind at all. Im just wondering how all this works.

    • ANSWER:
      1. Traditionally there are two rings for the girls–the engagement ring and the wedding ring. Saudering the rings together isn’t necessary–I don’t anyone who does that.

      2. The girl CAN go and help pick out the engagement ring–this isn’t something I personally like though. However, for the wedding ring you both go and pick out rings you like.

      3. Ordinarily, the “flashier” ring is the engagement ring and the wedding ring is simpler.

30. QUESTION:
    Wearing wedding ring and engagement ring together?
    Does it ‘mean’ something to wear them together or separate? Just that someone asked me if i wore them together on the same finger all the time like it was weird or something… is there a tradition and what’s the reason for that if so?

    • ANSWER:
      Traditionally people wear them on the same finger, but there’s no law saying it must be so. I wear my wedding band on the left and my engagement ring on the right – they are of different metals and wouldn’t go together. It’s not a big deal.

31. QUESTION:
    what are the pros and cons of attaching your wedding ring and engagement ring together?
    a lot of people tell me to have them welded together but i want to know more about the pros and cons first

    • ANSWER:
      Well, the major pro is that they are welded together, and can be taken off/on more easily and it’s not as hard to lose one, but the con is that if you lose it, you lose both. Also It looks better, because if you don’t attach them, it’ll look off center. And also, the MAJOR myth to having them welded together is that you’ll deplete the value. This is NOT true. I asked my jeweler because I had heard the same thing, and they told me that it does no such thing. They pointed out that the most valuable part of the ring is the diamond (or whatever stone you are using) not the gold, since the gold is cheap in comparison. So if you weld the gold it won’t deplete the value of the ring. Also it could enhance the value, for example. If you have a 1 carat solitaire diamond engagement ring, and you have a 1/2 carat diamond wrap for a wedding ring and you attach them together, instead of a 1 carat ring, you now have a 1 1/2 carat ring. Overall it’s your decision, personally I am going to weld mine after my wedding on 07-07-07. By the way congrats!!

32. QUESTION:
    engagement rings and wedding bands…?
    i don’t know anything about the rings. should the engagement ring and wedding band for the woman match? should they both be flashy? kay jewelers showed some nice engagement rings, and then ugly wedding bands, but when the engagement ring and wedding band were put together, it looked like a more beautiful ring than the engagement ring. but on jared’s, they don’t have anything like that. any help would be great!

    • ANSWER:
      It’s all about personal taste and what quality or design your man and you can afford. Look at every store you can find, see all the ideas offered. Go into pawnshops and look to and check out styles on Ebay…research before you buy, but get as many different ideas as you can. Best Wishes )O(

33. QUESTION:
    Can I wear silver and gold rings together?
    I have a gold diamond ring that I like to wear everyday (it’s not an engagement/wedding ring though) but all of my other rings are silver. I generally don’t care what people think (I don’t like labels/looking like a walking billboard) but I don’t want to look tacky either. I just want to feel confident and present myself well. What do you think? Can I wear them together? THANKS

    • ANSWER:
      I think you can do anything you want to do, it’s not a big deal as much anymore what you wear together…. but the key word you used in your question was confident! If you feel good about it and want to wear the ring with the others, do it…and show the world that it’s all about you… being who you are! You can present yourself and show your confidence,… and not worry about what anyone else thinks or says… I say, YOU GO GIRL!

34. QUESTION:
    What are the pros and cons of having your engagement ring and wedding ring soldiered together?

    • ANSWER:
      My wife had hers soldered together some years ago and she loves them also you have lees chances to lose them …

35. QUESTION:
    Where can I find an engagement ring and wedding ring that connect together to make one ring?

    • ANSWER:
      You can get a solitaire ring which is one stone http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryProductsView?storeId=10101&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&topCatId=15051&categoryId=15106&bcCatIds=15051.15057.15106&N=0&Ne=1&Ntk=Category&Ntt=15106 and then an enhancer which fits around that stone. http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryProductsView?storeId=10101&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&categoryId=17115&topCatId=15051&bcCatIds=15051.15058.17115&N=0&Ne=1&Ntk=Category&Ntt=17115

36. QUESTION:
    How exactly does buying wedding rings work?
    My fiance and I are getting married in 2 years but are starting to plan now. I was wondering how exactly the wedding rings get purchased. Do we go out together and pick a set and buy them, or do we pick out each others and buy them separatly? Do they sell two-piece sets? I’ve seen a lot of three piece sets that include the engagement ring, but I’ve already got that. Any advice? Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      There really aren’t much in the way of rules anymore. You could go together and get a matching set – most jewelers will carry matching sets. You could also purchase one for him that matches his personality and he could purchase one for you which matches your engagement ring so you end up with two different styles of wedding band. My husband and I both went with simple gold bands so ours do match – I bought his for him and he purchased mine. It is really up to you. All are acceptable options.

37. QUESTION:
    Do you have to solder your engagement ring/wedding band set together after you are married?
    I am newly engaged and was wondering if you have to have your engagement ring and your wedding band soldered together? all the women i know have them soldered

    • ANSWER:
      You don’t HAVE to. Some just do because they want to.

      As you get older, some women don’t want to wear the “flashy” engagement ring anymore and choose to wear just the band so they don’t get them soldered so they can just wear the band. Or later they get an “anniversary band” and just wear that because they don’t want to wear just one ring from their wedding set

      Moms do that too because when dealing with children and activities it’s better to have a flat band on than a raised engagement ring.

38. QUESTION:
    What are good metals for wedding bands/engagement rings?
    My fiance and I are looking at wedding bands and he wants and stainless steel black ring and I want a ring that can come in either platinum plated or sterling silver it says.I don’t know a thing about jewellery,I never wear any.The most important thing to me is that it lasts,though we’re trying to keep the price below 250 for both together. also for my engagement ring,I refuse to help my fiance find me one(;P) and he doesn’t know what will last either,I hate yellow gold and diamonds,I want something silver colored and with a colorful gem,but I don’t want it to be able to die quickly…
    I don’t want to buy online so please stop soliciting me unless you either have a jewellery store to recommend that is located in toronto(or canada if its a big name company)or if you want to be reported.I don’t like buying things that have to fit online,sorry.

    • ANSWER:
      Stick with Platinum.

      It is hypoallergenic. Platinum is really nice in that it has weight to it. Though it scratches easily, it can be easily polished too without it wearing out.

      Over time, Platinum ends up having a patina look to it. Some people actually like that. It depends on personal tastes. But once again, it can be polished up without wear for that bright shiny look.

      Or you can try Palladium. It’s in the same family of elements as Platinum, but costs less. It is also hypoallergenic and can be polished up for that bright shiny look.

      I have a Palladium wedding band, and my wife has a Platinum one. They look the same.

      White gold depends a lot on a person’s skin chemistry. If the wearer’s skin chemistry is highly acidic, the plating on white gold will be eaten away in time.

      Then the ring will have that yellowish look to it. By having it dipped in Rhodium and polished up again, you can have that bright shiny white gold look again. It’s more expensive maintenance, though cheaper in the beginning.

      And I usually don’t recommend yellow gold because it will give a diamond a warmer look to it. What’s the point in having a diamond that’s colorless or near colorless only to have it made yellowish by the yellow gold band?!

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39. QUESTION:
    How does insurance change if I have my engagement ring and wedding band welded together?
    My husband insured my engagement ring when he purchased it. Now that I have two rings, I would like to have them welded together. Would this cancel or nullify the insurance on my engagement ring? Would I have to re-insure the rings after I have them welded together?

    • ANSWER:
      It’s not going to change them at all. YOu might want to ask your agent to note your file, that the two rings have been welded – but it won’t affect value, coverage, or anything else.

40. QUESTION:
    Engagement & Wedding Ring Already Together?
    My BF picked up my engagement & wedding ring from my father today. It was the rings my mother had while they were married (not the first set – these rings were bought because she lost the first set). Well, as it turns out, the rings go together and they’re already literally together. Is it weird to be engaged & wear both the engagement & wedding rings?

    • ANSWER:

41. QUESTION:
    Question about the wedding rings at the ceremony…?
    Originally I had always planned to put my engagement ring on my right hand until after the ceremony – then put it next to my wedding ring. However, with the style of ring I have the best wedding ring to go along with it is something like this: the wedding ring has a slot in the middle and the engagement ring is placed in that slot, so the wedding ring is on both sides of the engagement ring. Should I just have the wedding and engagement ring soldered together before the ceremony? That’s the best thing I can think of but then I won’t have an engagement ring to wear right before the wedding, at the rehearsal dinner and such.

    • ANSWER:
      You chose a solitaire enhancer for your wedding band, those are pretty, I almost went with one of those for my wedding band. If you choose to solder your rings together, you may want to wait until after the wedding. I had some of our wedding photos taken before the ceremony with just my engagement ring, you wouldn’t be able to do that if you had them soldered together. I would wear your engagement ring for photos pre-ceremony (if you’re having them) and then hand off your engagement ring to the best man before the ceremony. That way he can slip it into the wedding band before he hands it to your finace. Best of luck to you and congratulations!

42. QUESTION:
    how long does it take to solder wedding rings?
    i want my engagement and wedding ring together.

    how long does it take?

    im going to Kay Jewelry’s to get it done since my rings are from there.

    • ANSWER:
      First off, congratulations!
      Anyways, we got my band and engagement rings from Kay’s as well. It took them about a week or two to send it away and get it back to me. It might be different where you are, but when you bring the rings in the clerks will tell you how long it will be!

43. QUESTION:
    How to sell my wedding rings?
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    I would like to sell my wedding/engagement rings….?
    They are beautiful, but not a set, we bought them separately. I wondered if I would get more if I sold them separately or together, and where the best place to sell them might be. Unfortunately the marriage has ended and the financial picture is grim.
    Thanks!!

    Poor angry Chase-
    My husband broke my leg on one of his “bad days”. I’m here for you if you have anymore anger to get out of your system, you just let me know. Thank you for you’re kind reply…VERY helpful.

    • ANSWER:
      I would try a place that sells estate jewelry.

      Or, if you just want to get rid of them, you can probably take them to a nice jewelry store and “trade” them, but sometimes there is a fee.

44. QUESTION:
    Good websites to look at wedding rings?
    I would like to look at engagement and wedding rings online. I want to see how different wedding and engagement rings look together. Most websites just have an area with bridal sets, and don’t let you see what different things look like. What are some good sites that I could see more? I ideally want a simple solitaire engagement ring, and I want the wedding ring to be round diamonds around it. Help? Thanks!
    That ring is close to what I would like but I can’t seem to find any examples of that sort of thing in online stores! I would likethem to be able to be fused together. Those couldn’t be.

    • ANSWER:
      What you’re describing is a solitaire with a pave band yes?

      This is pretty much ANYWHERE. Zales, Helzberg, Jareds, Kay, etc.

      If you ask around for a more private jeweller you might have a better experience, and they might have a more unique selection. You can always design your own ring. Some places have an area for that… or you can go to a jeweller, like I said, and give them an idea of what you want.

      Edit: I found this. Is this what you like?? Tiffany’s sell a ring very similar, but pricey. http://media.photobucket.com/image/edge%20solitaire%20with%20pave%20wedding%20band/Becks81/wedding_eng_combo.jpg

      Edit: Did you go to the store and ask? You don’t have to get a set, go pick out a ring you like, and find a pave band to go with it. I have a very strange set ring, I have to get a curved band, but they can still fuse them, and if they can’t, oh well! Just means I can take off the big rock when I don’t want to wear it out and just wear my band

      There is my suggestion then! Find a CURVED pave band. Try Helzberg. Type in pave, or milgrain. You will see a curved band.

      You really need to go in the stores for this. You can’t judge a rings beauty online.

45. QUESTION:
    Does wearing your wedding ring and engagement ring cause swelling?
    i have recently got married and the engagement ring fitted my ring finger just fine for the past year and with out it my wedding ring fits ok as does the engagement ring on its own fits fine but when i wear the two together my ring finger swells is this normal?

    if so does anyone have any tips on what to do

    • ANSWER:
      Since you now have two rings your engagement ring is mow on a different part of your finger which may be wider. Go to a jeweller and get them to take a look. They can size the ring for you so it’s a better fit. I had to do this as my engagement ring was tight once I had the wedding ring on.

46. QUESTION:
    Is it okay to use an engagement ring as a wedding ring?
    My girlfriend and I have decided to get married. As we already live together and we don’t plan on having a big wedding (just going to the court house since neither of us are religious), we’re not going to really have an engagement. Nevertheless I am going to buy her a diamond ring. Can this ring serve as a “wedding ring” (i.e., the one she wears all the time) or should I also buy a wedding band to accompany this? Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      The difference between a wedding ring and an engagement ring is a big one.

      The engagement ring is the main ring, the expensive one. You present your girlfriend an engagement ring while you’re proposing to her.

      The wedding ring is something you both wear once you’re officially married. They don’t cost much, and shouldn’t be too hard to pick out.

      For both rings, I strongly urge you to look online. The reason? Because you can save up to 50% online on the exact same rings you would buy in-store.

      Try http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rin… or http://design.jared-diamonds.com/engagem…

      I bought my now wife a James Allen engagement ring and we were both very happy with the purchase – me because I got her a gorgeous ring for much less, and her… well, she just LOVES her ring. Plus, It came with free delivery and a full cash-back guarantee.

      Seriously, before you buy, look online. You’ll thank me that you did.

      Hope this helps.

      Good luck!